Losing can be difficult at any age. It can affect your self-esteem. As you get older, you learn how to deal with the emotions associated with losing. This learning is encouraged by chess. Chess, however, involves the mind more than any other sport. Losing a game can break a child’s spirit, so they quit the game sooner than other sports.
Sometimes it can be difficult to find the sweetness, beauty, and passion for the game beyond losing. You lose a lot in chess!
How can we handle this?
Not all children who play chess are brilliant. Even though they may not be chess-savvy, some kids can still play. Like music, chess is a skill that can be learned through practice. While natural talent is important, it is not the only factor. People appearing on the prize lists are there because of their daily hard work. Chess can be studied in the same way as any other subject. There is no way around the relentless focus required to reach the master or club level. Endless with an uppercase E
2. How to play chess and why
Before your child attends a chess lesson, call a family meeting. It must start at a hobby level. It will be devastating for your child if they play chess only once a week and then you win the age-group national championship.
It is best to pick tournaments appropriate for the child’s age and level of preparation. Have fun, and you’ll see how it goes. Consider how much time and money Chess will take away from other activities and studies. Is your child ready to put in the effort for professional training? If so, take it slow and enjoy chess as it is. It’s a fun, educational tool that helps you develop analytical skills and meets interesting people.
As if you were learning a new language, play chess. To stimulate the mind, let the child attend a chess class. Some people visit the gym not to build their bodies. You don’t have to be a great musician to enjoy a beautiful symphony. It’s great to allow chess to be a recreational activity, away from the endless TV. Chess is also a great parallel occupation. Semi-pro can last a lifetime. It works.
3. Approval by parents
Many who have been to tournaments have seen horror stories of parents beating their children for losing. This happens when a lot is at stake for a family. It is expensive to play tournaments or even basic training.
Parents want their children to be successful, focused, and achieve success. On the other hand, kids can be lazy and unfocused. There is a middle ground, a line of reason that starts with love. A child who loses a chess tournament is already upset. You will not hear anything you say at that moment. It is best to increase your affection, hugging, and loving quotient at that moment. Save the analysis for later.
Let the child feel protected if you want to foster a champion. You will love him regardless of how he does. A simple hug works. After the initial sadness of loss has subsided, you can return to the disapproval. You will have a better chance of helping your child to take positive steps towards resolving their problems. Yes, it is important to be strict but in a way that will make a positive impact. Plan a distraction activity after a game, such as shopping or movies. After a loss, the worst thing to say to your child is “What should he have done?” and “Why didn’t.”
Chess players love to tell the whole story. Listening with attention is the best way to learn. Encourage your child to talk about the game.
5. Faith in your coach
Don’t trust your child’s chess coach if you don’t believe in him. Be confident in your ability to coach your child. Professional coaching requires professional methods. Coaching is always about a team. While you should work closely with the coach, let your child bond with his teacher and classmates. It takes six months to one year to improve your playing strength.
6. Protect yourself against bullying
Pushing your child to the limit is okay, but not beyond that. Your child’s happiness should be the main focus. To protect your child from being branded by peers, moving them to a junior group is okay. Talk to your coach about moving your child to a junior class if necessary. Chess is a game where the pace of learning is very different. Talk to your child about the importance of chess and how it can bring you joy.
Take up chess! This article is already clear. (Not on a lighter note. Chess is great for all ages.